Wouldn’t it be nice if our family members treated us exactly how we wanted, our
spouses loved us the way we deserved to be loved or our friendships give back as
much as you gave? Of course that would be ideal however, life and the people in it aren’t malleable.
As difficult as some individuals in my life been and are, I believe the challenges they bring allow God to bring out the best in me, not the worst.
I’ve failed, I have at times allowed people to bring out the worst in myself.
In relation to when our lives are in danger, that is an exception where we do not have to face that challenge, no one should encourage us to and we simply should not.
I’ve made poor judgements, trying to help someone with either a mental illness, drug addiction or both at the expense of my own sanity.
Aside from those exceptions, most people that pose no immediate threat, provide a
learning opportunity.
I think God allows our lives to collide with difficult people to bring out the “Jesus” in
me, rather then the selfish in me.
It’s one of the hardest challenges of being a christian, aside from not giving into fleshly desires. It truly is one of the most daunting tasks anyone can undergo.
The family member that withholds love, I have to love them back.
The spouse that lies, cheats or does worse, I have to love them and even forgive them.
The stranger that cuts me off in traffic and gives me the finger, I have to let that go.
The friend that gossips, slanders my name and doesn’t believe me, I have to stay out of the drama and love them from a distance anyway.
God loves me at my very worst, he calls me to do the exact same in every situation with every relationship to be like him. (Again, abuse of any kind requires no communication but immediate distance.)
“Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” Matthew 5:44, yikes.
“Do I really have to?” is what I often ask myself, despite how much evidence I have to throw at God as to how wrongfully unjust peoples behavior is, his answer doesn’t change. It’s always, “yes”.
Forgiveness needn’t be confused with desperation. A lot of people mix those two things up.
If a spouse has an affair, a family member isn’t on your team, a friend abandons you, people, especially that aren’t Christians may view someone continuing a relationship with anyone that committed those “crimes” as being desperate.
No, there are cases where out of self respect a relationship may come to an end because the person will continually hurt you, use you, lie to you, abuse you, gossip about you, think the worst in you, abandon you, take and not give.
Most relationships are not broken beyond repair, God is a God of restoration, that is his will, if people eventually put their own free will aside, reconciliation is possible.
There isn’t anything desperate about people setting aside their anger, pride and hurt to repair not only themselves but a relationship.
Some people never forgive others nor admit that they themselves have many flaws.
Some people like to point out the shortcomings of others, but never want to acknowledge their own mistakes.
It’s unfortunate, but not everyone’s goal in life is to become a better, healthier and more intelligent person.
I say these words over and over again in my head until hopefully one day it really sticks. I have to think the unthinkable, love the unlovable and forgive the unforgivable. I have to think the unthinkable, love the unlovable and forgive the unforgivable. I have to think the unthinkable, love the unlovable and forgive the unforgivable…

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